Thursday, October 17, 2013

Turn the other cheek

This week, on Masterpiece Theatre…

We discuss mutual experiences of democracy or lack thereof in the classroom. After last night’s class, while I believe some people were galvanized and ready to discuss things…I was completely drained. It is depressing to consider how often democracy and representation falls short in school because administrators do not care or teachers misuse their power. I had a teacher in fourth grade that berated the students and another in eighth grade who told us we were all going to fail the GEPA. Until last night, I had no idea how common cruelty and abuse of power can be. Incompetent teachers, it seems, are universal.

Then, what, perhaps, is the product of this? Have they lost their way in a democracy? Have they grown accustomed to abusing the students and thinking that this is permissible? Is it because they believe no one will stand in their way? It bothers me to think about the teachers I had and that other endured who subjected their students to misery simply because they could. It seems so petty, for one thing. How, exactly, does picking on a child make you a better person? Or superior?

For that matter, how does standing aside while one child bullies another make a teacher better? Almost all of the class experienced bullying. In my case, the teachers never noticed it or never stepped in to help. How does this emphasize the idea that, as my school proposed, “all encounters in our school are based upon mutual cooperation, respect, and courtesy”? It does not, really. All it does is emphasize the emptiness of such pursuits.

Yet, there are examples that show how exemplary a school can be if they try. One of the people in my group had a school that supported him and helped him to participate within society. It gave him the tools he needed to become a social justice crusader rather than someone who was personally responsible (if that). When the school makes a concentrated effort, good things can happen. Why, then, do schools choose not to do so?

It seems to me that schools believe that only lessons learned in class are life lessons. Only lessons should be taken as examples of democracy and even then, teachers can demonstrate the wrong ideas. The lessons I learned outside of class taught me more about democracy, sadly, than most of what I encountered within class. When a bunch of boys ganged up on me in gym class and threw basketballs at my head, my guidance counselor’s response was, “Boys will be boys.” (My parents had to spend the extra money to get frames that were flexible, because people kept breaking my classes in gym class). So, then, is democracy really composed of the greater and the lesser? It seems like it is…and then, no encounters are based upon equal anything. Some people are entitled to more because they fit the dominant culture of being white Anglo-Saxon males.

It upsets me to think that students and teachers who committed abuse upon each other could have “gotten away with it”. To what end, then, does our democracy start and stop? Does democracy within the schools really mean, “We’ll protect our own and to hell with everyone else?” This is a concept I will struggle with throughout the semester. Everything I learned in my formative years taught me that democracy is a failed concept within schooling. Yet we are expected to teach it.

It reminds me of an argument I had on a completely unrelated matter last night. An acquaintance and I were discussing Regina Mills from Once Upon a Time and her parenting practices. I commented that Regina, having a bad mother growing up, has no idea how to be a good mother. It is like that with democracy in the classroom. Having had no good examples for it, how am I supposed to know how to set a good example myself?

Perhaps, as the term goes on, I will figure this out. Or perhaps I will always grope for it; it will lurk there, just beyond the horizon.



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